Kudos to CBS for Bleeping The ‘R’ Word

Last night while watching The Amazing Race there was a section where they were interviewing a team of a brother and sister, Azaria & Hendekea. The sister, Hendekea, was talking about her brother acting like she was so slow. Then said something like he must think I’m a “R—-d” but CBS bleeped it out. This is the first time I have ever seen anyone treat that word for what it is; offensive and insulting to people. We rewound the segment to make sure that is what they did, and all in the room agreed, they bleeped out the “r” word.

I encourage everyone who feels this is an offensive and degrading to let CBS know they appreciate their efforts. You can find their contact page at : http://www.cbs.com/info/user_services/fb_global_form.shtml

Kudos to CBS! We have already sent them a note thanking them.

— Wanda Felty

Attitudes continue to haunt disabled professionals, speaker says

The Norman Transcript
Published: November 01, 2007
http://www.normantranscript.com/archivesearch/local_story_306012433

Jason Price’s biggest barrier isn’t brick or steel or wood.

It has nothing to do with construction or even equipment.

Jason Price’s biggest barrier is people.

More specifically, their attitude.

Price, a graduate of Northeastern Oklahoma State University, and a professional with the State of Oklahoma, has cerebral palsy.

And he uses a wheelchair.

And it’s what people think about his disability, he says, that causes most of his problems.

“People with disabilities face tremendous barriers,” he said. “The biggest barriers to employment for people with significant disabilities are attitudinal barriers — they are even more profound than the architectual ones we still face.”

Disabled professionals, he said, have a “very difficult time” getting on equal ground in the search for employment.

“Despite a degree from Northeastern, it took me from May 1997 until September of 1999 to find employment,” he said. “And I had a good resume.  I was a straight-A student and did an internship at Channel 9 -TV  in Oklahoma City.”

An avid sports fan, Jason had hoped to use his degree to pursue a career in sports journalism.

But the attitude toward his disability derailed his plans.

“I would send in my resume and people would call back for an interview. They would be ready to interview me and it never failed, I showed up and everything about the individual changed.”

From words, to downright shock, he said.

He blames the problem on a what he calls “the grocery store incident.”

“The grocery store incident is that moment each of you had when you were at the grocery store with your mom and you saw someone with a significant disability,” he said. “Your jaw dropped to the floor and you stared. You probably had a lot of questions for that individual.”

However, Price said those questions were left unasked because, “your mom would not let you and you got into trouble for staring.”

“On your way home, your mom told you what her mom told her and the misinformation continued. It continues to this day,” he said.

Along with the fight to overcome the attitude.

“People with disabilities are regular people,” Price said. “There is nothing different about our wants or desires. We are exactly the same.”

As an example, Price described his own life.

“I’ve been married 10 years, I own my own home and have a 5-year-old son,” he said. “I like to watch football on the weekends. There is nothing out of the ordinary.”

Too often, Price says society looks at disabled professionals as “super crips.”

“I refer to it as ‘super crip.’ Where we are exhaulted for doing things considered normal. When the fact is, we are normal.”

Speaking at a recent reception for human resource professionals at the Sarkey’s Foundation, Price, a Social Security Administration vocational rehabilitation coordinator for the state’s Department of Rehabilitation Services, said the best way to deal with disabled professionals was simple respect.

“Don’t assume all disabled people know each other,” he quipped. “I’ve had it happen where people will see me at, say, Subway and they’ll say ‘hey, do you know David?’ and I’ll say, ‘who?’ and they’ll say, ‘you know, David. He’s that guy in a wheelchair, too.'”

“Well,” Price said. “I hate to break your heart, but disabled people don’t all get together in the evening.”

Using humor and a well-honed, comfortable speaking style, Price urged business and industry leaders to ignore the myths about hiring disabled employees.

“People with disabilities are perceived to be a risk to hire,” he said. “That’s wrong. They are perceived to be an insurance risk or to need extra accommodations. Well, the truth is, there are a lot of things out there that help with the architectural barriers, but there are not that many which help with the attitude barriers.”

Disabled employees, he said, “are constantly in a state of proving our worth.”

“None of the myths are true,” he said. “People with disabilities just want a tiny piece of the American Dream.”

To help overcome those barriers, Price said professionals should interact with disabled professionals on an equal level.

“For example, with me, please be seated if you are going to talk with me at length. And while assistance is appreciated, please ask before helping.”

Many times, some people will “literally run me over,” Price said, by trying to open the door. “We call those people good deed vampires. They are trying to suck the good right out of me.”

A native Oklahoman, Price said disabled professionals just seek a “fair chance” to succeed in the business world.

“I consider my disability a part of me,” he said. “It’s who I am. I believe I am exactly how God wanted me to be. And there are many, many others just like myself. We’re all seeking the same thing. We all want the same things. People need to see that.”

Please stop saying `retard’

Please stop saying `retard’
Letter to the Editor
The Observer
http://www.nd.edu/~observer/02082000/Viewpoint/5.html


When I was growing up my father used to take my family on these trips to Notre Dame. I used to call it his glory time since he was kind of reliving the past. I also got the impression that Notre Dame was this wonderful place where nothing goes wrong.Ever since I started going here, I found that it has its problems just like everywhere else does. However, there is one problem which gets under my skin. It is when I hear my fellow classmates use the word “retard” to describe how they feel or what they look like.

There are two reasons why this bugs me. First, I have an older brother who is a “retard,” so I have grown up with people staring at him and making him fell out of place. Second, out of all the people in the world, they are the only ones who cannot defend themselves. I also know that most mentally disabled people know that it means something negative about them.

I know that nobody would call someone a “retard” who actually is mentally disabled. However, it is the idea behind the word that still exists. I just hope that people will be a little more thoughtful before they say “retard.”

Aaron Cook

Junior, Zahm Hall

February 7, 2000

Myers apologies for his choice of words

Finally, someone with a high profile and money gets “IT”.  Now, maybe there is hope for Larry the Cable Guy and all the others….

Two days after the Phillies’ closer got into a verbal altercation with a reporter, Myers still was upset he called the writer a “retard.”

“I shouldn’t have said that,” Myers said before Philadelphia played the New York Mets on Monday night. “I didn’t mean to offend anybody.”

Myers allowed two solo homers in the ninth inning of the Phillies’ 4-3 loss to San Diego on Saturday night. He told reporters a few times after the game that he didn’t think either ball was hit well, calling both “popups.” When one writer asked him to repeat his answer, the emotional Myers became irritated.

The two exchanged words and had to be physically separated, though no punches were thrown. After cooling off for a bit, Myers returned to his locker, apologized to the remaining reporters and answered more questions. He even did a television interview.

“I was frustrated, but I never should’ve used that word,” Myers

 Here is the rest of the story;

http://sportsillustrated.cnn.com/2007/baseball/mlb/wires/08/27/2010.ap.bbn.phillies.myers.0321/

If I had a retard for a kid…

 For those of you who believe we don’t live in a world where people with disabilities are discriminated against;  from a post on the Life of Jason blog regarding a trip to a local restaurant, a woman at the next table says loud enough for everyone to hear;

“If I had a retard for a kid I’d never let it out of the house.”

I’m glad my dad didn’t hear it because he would have come over the table at that woman.  As the situation was, it took everything within me to not make a scene.  My first instinct was to turn around and rip into this woman but I thank God He’s really worked on me in that area!  I just instead kissed Eli on the forehead and tried to keep him as quiet as possible.  Some food finally showed up and we gave to Eli just to keep him happy.

You would think this would be the end of the story but there was more.  A few minutes after her initial comment, the waiter handling the table of this family came over and asked if everything was OK.

“Except for the retard at the next table bothering us things are fine,” the woman said to him.

“I’m sorry you have to deal with that,” the waiter said.  “Can I do anything to fix that for you?”

Read the entire post:

http://lifeofjason.com/2007/08/26/if-i-had-a-retard-for-a-kid/

Advice From a Teacher

Following is an excerpt from a teacher’s comments:

When I’m in a classroom, I must too often ask a student to get the dictionary and look up the word ‘retard’ or ‘retarded’.

Retard: To cause to move or proceed slowly; to hinder; to impede; to obstruct. Retarded: abnormally slowed.

I also tell students, “When we use a word regardless of it’s actual meaning as a slur, insult or put-down, it shows the ignorance of the person who uses the word.”

“NOT RETARDED” One Part of the Community Expresses Language Hurts!

“NOT RETARDED” One Part of the Community Expresses Language Hurts!
Steve Hoad

“send letters to organizations to help them understand that retarded isn’t a proper word”…    “it hurts us if you call us retarded”…    “it is Ok to write the word retarded in order to explain to them that it is hurtful.”
(Paul Piccard, Augusta)

We have all felt the sting of hurtful words. They stick in our throats if we have to say them and stick in our hearts when we hear them. One particular segment of our communities has been speaking up about the hurt inflicted by one word, “retarded,” and their challenges are finding people and organizations who will hear their stories and reasons.

It is a word now used to mean much more than a medical diagnosis — a word that now expresses disdain or stupidity, funny or simpleness

 Read the rest of the article: http://www.abilitymaine.org/oped/notret.html

Should The ‘R’ Word Be Banned?

This mother of two thinks so and so do we…

“While some are advocating that the n-word be banished from America’s lexicon, who is the voice for the 7.5 million Americans with intellectual disabilities who truly are mentally retarded? Who is defending their dignity while everyday folks — educated adults at that — take a term that clinically applies to the disabled and use it as an insult?”

http://www.usatoday.com/news/opinion/2007-07-04-opcom_N.htm?csp=34

Renaming Mental Retardations

The group of AAIDD experts responsible for defining the condition of intellectual disability to the world now explains the move away from the word “mental retardation” to the term intellectual disability in an article published in the April issue of the journal, Intellectual and Developmental Disabilities. “At the heart of this shift is the understanding that this term covers the same population of individuals who were diagnosed previously with mental retardation in number, kind, level, type, and duration of the disability and the need of people with this disability for individualized services and supports,” explain Robert Schalock et al. in “The Renaming of Mental Retardation: Understanding the Change to the Term Intellectual Disability.”

 About Intellectual Disability
http://www.cyh.com/HealthTopics/HealthTopicDetails.aspx?p=114&np=306&id=1876

Surely, You Must Have Something Better To Do…

To the gentleman who took time to write and tell us, “surely,  you must have something better to do”  we would ask, “don’t you?”  To those who send us adolescent graphics depicting messages mocking people with disabilities we would also ask, “why do you hate people with disabilites?”

Its easy to deny a problem, or make fun of it.  People do that every day using the word ‘retard’ as the links and pages on our site readily show but that doesn’t make it right.  The fact is when you use the word ‘retard’ to describe someone or something you think is bad it becomes another thoughtless hurtful word.

Once you know that when used in a thoughtless or spiteful way,  the word ‘retard’ hurts people with disabilites it becomes a choice on your part.  By using it in that manner you are choosing to hurt.

 Now that you know, why would you continue to use it in that way?

The message of this site is very simple.  We tried to write it as simply as we could so it would be easily understandable.  It is so simple in fact that some people do not seem to understand it. 

While mental retardation is not a bad word, when used to describe someone or something you think is bad it becomes another thoughtless hurtful word. People with mental retardation are not bad, their condition is not bad, the prejudice and discrimination to people with mental retardation is BAD…and WRONG!

Please stop using the word ‘retard’, it hurts people with disabilities.